Ridding your life of shady boots, negative folk, and just bad minded people is tough.

And it’s a process that needs to be completed.

I’ve found that most people start the process and never finish it.

There’s a plot of land in our hearts that’s a cemetery.

There’s a lot of death there with a number of emotional graves.

Not to sound too cryptic, but we’re mourning the living.

There are people who are very much alive, but the relationship you once had is very dead.

And you reminisce like you do for those who’ve gone on. Your mind conveniently excludes pain and only stirs up happy nostalgia.

You know you’re better; yet you’re bitter.

Without them you’ve blossomed, you’ve gotten stronger, you’re somehow able to handle more weight without them.

Yet you yearn for the yesteryears.

And it begs me to question why?

At 16, I had my first hard and fast lesson in this: people change.

Who was isn’t who is. And who is isn’t who will always be.

Truth.

And the same stands true of you.

You change.

The one you think you can’t live without is the same one who can’t live with the current version of you.

Life moves and shifts. And thank God for it.

So my advice to me is this. Move on and complete the process.

If that person is no longer in your life, accept it. And complete the process by keeping them on the outskirts of you. Don’t allow them to trespass.

Hope this helps!
Ambini